Note from Hawk: Found this on puamedia. I thing it´s a great read for all of us!!!!!! I hope it´s okay that I post that here.....
Found this article on the Sex Revolution Blog written by Spirit Fingers, about a post that LB wrote a while back that was reposted in the RSD newsletters by Jeffy (jlaix). Enjoy.
"A lot of you probably remember a dude named Loverboy, who made the infamous “Loverboy’s Tribute to Sarging.” It’s a really motivational video, with videos of him with his old LTR, and an explanation of how bad his oneitis for her was. Then, at the end is a montage of tons of pictures of him having good times with hot chicks, and even him and Hoobie naked/getting blowjobs from chicks. Unfortunately, one of the girls in the video found it so he had to take it down, but if you can get your hands on it from somewhere I highly reccomend it.
Loverboy was one of my favorite PUAs in the community because he doesn’t take himself too seriously. A lot of community guys that get good, they start to fall into the “guru” role and think of themselves as too “high value” to have any fun. LB, on the other hand, always kept it real. Also, he’s an open-minded guy who didn’t get sucked into community politics. He doesn’t post on *** any more, but in this article in RSD’s newsletter, he gives a good summary of how to reconcile the different styles of the community, and also some tips on how to get good regardless of what style you use."
Originally posted by Loverboy
Lately we’ve had a good number of posts focusing on lifestyle,
relationships, and social intelligence, learning how to be
cool, and learning how to be socially saavy.
All this is great, because a lot of guys are definitely
missing the big picture so it’s good to reiterate the reason
in the first place of why learn all the lines, the routines,
the social dynamics and the theories, and to ask oneself
again why you are in the game.
But here is what’s happening, and I just want to touch upon
the different classic groups of guys:
Guy A is the typical guy that those posts were meant for.
Came in the community because he wants to learn tactics to
pick up girls. He wants to know how to approach a woman, have
her be interested, kiss the woman, take her home etc.
These IMO are not about tactics/techniques as it is about
having some balls and social intelligence to play on the
dynamics of the situation, and being quicker on your feet and
always having something better to say or do than the girl.
Anyway we’re familiar with guy A because he’s the routine
social robot that opens 1000s of sets, becomes a validation
junkie, and sees everything as a “set.”
For guy A it’s no longer about pickup but about how many
indicators of interest he can generate so he can feel better
about his low self esteem, and the mathematical calculation
of how to win a set over.
Guy B on the other hand is at the other extreme. Hears that
routines are “excuser” mentality. Go direct. Be a man. Don’t
be scared to bang chick! He thinks that his lack of success
is merely because he’s not ‘man’ enough and that alone.
So he learns to grab girls. Stand tall and alpha. He walks
into a regular coffee shop and starts shouting at customers
catching up over a drink, and even gets kicked out… of a
coffee shop… he is the opposite of guy A.
Dropped all the tactics/techniques but has no social grace,
because he thinks that it’s ‘cool’ to break free from the
‘matrix’ and fly like Neo because it’s obviously cool to be
outside the matrix and think that everyone in the world is
being ’sheep’.
Guy B is no longer about pickup but about the adrenaline rush
from doing things your parents would never approve. It’s
reverse psychology at work.
Guy C is the new breed that we’re seeing more lately. He’s
the guy who probably used to be A and/or B, probably been in
the game for at least a couple of years, and have reached a
certain point where he has become complacent with gaming but
has gotten lays under his belt.
He sees the bigger picture. He drops all routines, all game,
and still has girls still chasing him. He goes out and has a
decent social lifestyle so he goes to have fun with his
friends and doesn’t game at all.
He is more socially calibrated and intelligent than type A or
B. But he doesn’t do any approaches. He doesn’t even escalate
after talking to some broad for an hour.
He gets girls, but not the ones he wants. He would not be
able to perform because his skillset is just no longer sharp.
What he doesn’t realize is that this happens everyday.
It’s a natural phenomenon for people to have sex. It doesn’t
make him a pick up artist. For guy C, it’s no longer about
pickup but about delusions that he’s ‘made it’.
These are all extremities. The key is developing yourself to
become a hybrid of all 3. Knowing when to be guy A, guy B, or
guy C, or a combination.
Knowing that guy C may be the ideal guy for the LIFESTYLE and
FRAME. But if you want to keep your game sharp, guy C won’t
do it.
There is a reason you can learn this stuff… if you want to
maintain a polished skillset, you still need to play the game
and have the SKILLSET of guy A. Keep the social wit and
naturalness, but be able to use skillset in a cold approach
situation.
Same with guy B - knowing that the balls and MENTALITY of guy
B will also come in handy in situations where you require
that edge to overcome being a pussy in doing an approach or
being more dominant and confident.
Each of the 3 broad generalizations I wrote above were
actually real life anecdotes from real life scenarios.
It was pretty shocking, to all of us, to hear that a bunch
of guys got kicked out of Starbucks. How often does someone get
kicked out of a coffee shop??
You know something went wrong there.
My point is not to say a particular camp has bad teachings
because I genuinely think that everyone with good intentions
has something good to teach.
On the other hand, to point out that what guys end up seeing
is one LINEAR way to do things instead of opening up to accept
that a HYBRID is required in order to be a successful pick up
artist.
At the same time, the ‘hybrid PUA/natural’ should also make
sure to:
(1) keep developing other parts of your life, and have
something beyond just ‘game’. If he has a job, don’t neglect
that. If he has a double life like Kent Clark/Superman, make
sure there is a BALANCE.
The way to integrate it is to have a flexible frame and
identity. You don’t need to be one OR the other. You don’t
have to choose between swimming or going to the gym.
You can do both.
(2) develop SMOOTHNESS APPROPRIATELY - whether you are guy A,
B or C.
Smoothness is a thing I see that even many top guys still can
do with development. Smoothness in MOVEMENT, facial muscle
transitions, voice, gestures, delivery - until it becomes
NATURAL.
This means interactions whether as the game spitting
machine or the laid back natural who gets gamed, have the
interaction FLOW.
(3) living in the moment, dropping the ego and learning to be
state independent (credit to Tux for this) One of the biggest
things I’ve overcome in the past year is moving slowly away
from outcome dependency and enjoying the interactions and
process.
Easing the highs and lows by LIVING IN THE MOMENT.
(4) don’t get sucked into a linear pickup model. It’s a
skillset, and there are many ways to drive a car. Everyone
will do it differently. No one can say that there is only one
way to drive it.
Girls are still people. People are human and genes dictate a
lot of human behaviour but there is a reason why people like
different things and everyone is unique.
No one can tell you how to live or the right decision to make.
There is no such thing as a wrong decision. But as a wise man
once pointed out, the difficult decision IS often the right one.
(5) Lifestyle development should not revolve around pickup.
Nothing wrong with not approaching constantly. Nothing wrong
with having a girlfriend. Nothing wrong with buying a girl a
drink.
Don’t let all the ‘rules’ dictate your life. There’s much
more out there in this world than controlling/dominating
every single interaction in your life. In fact I’ve found
myself to be a natural in many parts of my life outside of
this lately.
Life is flowing.
Things seem to just come to me easily my way these days.
Maybe it’s just a period in my life, but I’m in no way
controlling or manipulating situations to happen.
They just seem to… just go well.
And the last point I can add before I have to jet off (in
Spain with other half and I’d rather go hold her than type,
but hey, bros before hoes)
Learn to be content with what you have- one victory calls for
another, and is indeed a trait of successful people, but at
some point, learn to be happy with what you got, otherwise
you’d never be happy…
In this moment, I may not be as rich as I will be in 5 years,
my game may not be ultra ninja level 1000, and my girlfriend
is not a rich oil tycoon or stripper of the year.
But I have grown so much in the past year (couldn’t have done
it this fast without you guys BTW) I don’t think I can be any
happier right now with what I have.
Good luck to ya’ll.
Cheers,
LB